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Happy Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon in Aries

Happy Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon in Aries

Again, Mystic Mamma has spoken words of wisdom directly to my heart.

If you are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted from having spread yourself a little too thin, you are not alone! This full moon, the Hunter Moon, is bringing everything you have invested yourself in to a head. This means relationships, finances, dreams, everything you place value on in your life.

Okay, now take a breath, stop freaking out, and remember;

You are exactly where you need to be, doing exactly what you need to be doing.

Do whatever brings you joy and more opportunities to do those kinds of activities will present themselves. The junk that currently isn’t working, and making you feel stuck, will fall away. Let it. Allow yourself to evolve.

Creating balance is an ongoing process, not a destination. If the hurdles you have been encountering seem insurmountable, break them down. Even those brave few who have reached the summit of Mount Everest had to do so one step at a time.

Go check out Mystic Mamma for more elaborate inspirations, those are some wise we’moon there.

Refocus
and
Keep on Trucking

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Guilt, O Tenacious Fungus of my Soul

Thank you Stephanie Sprenger of “Mommy for Real” for voicing my exact emotional state as of late. (This post’s title and inspiration come to you, through me, thanks to her timely Mamapedia post ūüėČ

I have always dealt with guilty feelings concerning one thing or another in my life. I blame my mother for utilizing guilt as a tactic for coercing me into “choosing” to do what she wanted. And I feel guilty for naming this blame! But I have also come to realize that my mom was simply acting based on the way she was handled as a child. With this knowledge I can now consciously choose to break this particular guilt cycle in my parenting techniques.

Yay! One source of guilt felled and two more take it’s place like the fabled hydra of Herculean fame. How many mamas wake up in the wee hours with chores and whole laundry lists of shoulda, woulda, couldas? And just about the time you take a breath because you feel like you’ve done everything within your power to be a great mom, someone has to go and pop off their opinion that maybe you’re doing too much. Or maybe you’re a great mom at the expense of being a great partner, or business woman, or artist, or friend; whatever you excelled at prior to the life altering event of childbirth.

Is there a chance that American society will be more cohesive in regards to parenting practices in the future? Right now I feel pulled in a thousand different directions in my efforts to be a whole person, who happens to have added “mommy” to the many facets of her personality. Right now parenting feels like an uphill battle against the majority opinion. I have found like-minded allies, but for some reason those closest to me don’t realize how they undermine my confidence in my abilities.

France’s parenting skills have been in the spotlight recently thanks to the polite, well mannered results of consistent conditioning. I read Bringing Up B√©b√©: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting
when I was pregnant, which left me feeling a little disillusioned when my son didn’t begin sleeping through the night at 3 or 4 months. This is because we co-sleep, which I adore and would trade a brief midnight breastfeeding session for the traumatic “crying it out” technique any day of the week. I do however intend to implement a fairly French approach to meals. I have a rather broad palette and plan to introduce foods as we eat them, with an emphasis on veggies initially, rather than catering to immature taste buds.

Having the freedom to choose our personal parenting practices in this way is a bit of a blessing and a curse. If we all follow the general guideline of safety first and remember that anytime we point our finger at someone else we’ve got three fingers pointing back at ourselves, then maybe we can begin to practice the same compassion towards our parenting peers as we wish to cultivate in our own homes.

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Give Up On Being Perfect

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Better Yourself

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Whew! I’ve often heard that anything worth having requires work. Cultivating happiness is no exception. Last week’s focus on optimism, rather ironically, left me feeling pretty pessimistic. My brain was able to put a positive spin on my current challenges, but my heart only caught fleeting fragments of joy from the new¬†possibilities opening up to me.¬†

Change is probably the only constant in life and, if you’re anything like me, ¬†it can be just as scary as it is exciting. I knew that welcoming my son into this world would come with some responsibility juggling. I didn’t expect to be as happy to rearrange certain aspects of my life around his needs as I have found myself.¬†

Even more surprising was the discovery that the average employer’s willingness to be¬†accommodating to your schedule as a new mother is basically theoretical, unless your working in childcare. Standing up and ¬†doing what you feel is most beneficial in supporting your child’s happiness and vitality is both empowering and humbling. There are so many mamas out there who seem to flow so much more easily into the balancing act we call motherhood. It’s difficult not to look at the DailyMom.com or those perfectly polished, professional mothers with their 10, 20, and 50 year plans falling into place just so, and not think “Their lives look so awesome! I wish i had seen that, done that, thought of that first!”

Now, small doses of appreciating others success can be inspirational. However, as soon as you feel that green-eyed monster creeping up on you, it’s time to switch gears.

Close the computer. Turn off the TV. Politely end the conversation with that sensational person leaving you feeling lack-luster. Then take a moment to appreciate your accomplishments.

Lately, most accomplishments that come to mind feel less important than they once did. When I’m feeling down like this, I can still remind myself that my greatest achievement to date is my son. Witnessing the love that circles through me to him and back again, rippling out into our ever widening circles of family and friends, helps put my life back into perspective.¬†

I love my kid, and that makes me great. Everything else is just icing on the cake

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