Last week’s project had to take a backseat as my son continued to launch me into the present moment with almost unbearable fussiness. Funnily enough last week’s agenda was to fine tune your coping skills.
First of all I would like to give mad props to all the single parents out there. I am so grateful to have a loving partner and family to reassure me when my “mommy sense” is on overdrive.
The most effective coping strategy according to Wikipedia is problem-focused. This refers to any means by which you identify the source of stress & subsequently take action to reduce and or remove the stressor. Even the simple act of listing possible solutions can offer some relief.
Since the source of stress this past week was my beloved baby, I couldn’t very well “remove” my stressor without creating a whole new source of stress. And I definitely exhausted my suddenly limited repertoire of relaxation techniques.
Then, just as things were starting to look grim, my honey suggested a little father son bonding time away from the house. At first I didn’t know what to do with the few quiet hours of personal time. I puttered around the house, cleaning in circles in a desperate attempt to catch up to a somewhat pre-baby state of organization.
After playing my Jai Uttal station on Pandora a while, I centered enough to remember the leafy greens that needed to be salvaged and set to work juicing with the Vitamix. After that rewarding project was completed, I had just enough time to do a little deep breathing and stretching.
When my boys got back home we were all miraculously happier. I realized how my son must have been feeding off of my increasing stress levels, creating a vicious cycle.
I am thankful to have these small but powerful reminders that even the most attentive and well intentioned parent needs a little help to maintain their sanity and their children’s well-being.