Whew! I’ve often heard that anything worth having requires work. Cultivating happiness is no exception. Last week’s focus on optimism, rather ironically, left me feeling pretty pessimistic. My brain was able to put a positive spin on my current challenges, but my heart only caught fleeting fragments of joy from the new possibilities opening up to me.
Change is probably the only constant in life and, if you’re anything like me, it can be just as scary as it is exciting. I knew that welcoming my son into this world would come with some responsibility juggling. I didn’t expect to be as happy to rearrange certain aspects of my life around his needs as I have found myself.
Even more surprising was the discovery that the average employer’s willingness to be accommodating to your schedule as a new mother is basically theoretical, unless your working in childcare. Standing up and doing what you feel is most beneficial in supporting your child’s happiness and vitality is both empowering and humbling. There are so many mamas out there who seem to flow so much more easily into the balancing act we call motherhood. It’s difficult not to look at the DailyMom.com or those perfectly polished, professional mothers with their 10, 20, and 50 year plans falling into place just so, and not think “Their lives look so awesome! I wish i had seen that, done that, thought of that first!”
Now, small doses of appreciating others success can be inspirational. However, as soon as you feel that green-eyed monster creeping up on you, it’s time to switch gears.
Close the computer. Turn off the TV. Politely end the conversation with that sensational person leaving you feeling lack-luster. Then take a moment to appreciate your accomplishments.
Lately, most accomplishments that come to mind feel less important than they once did. When I’m feeling down like this, I can still remind myself that my greatest achievement to date is my son. Witnessing the love that circles through me to him and back again, rippling out into our ever widening circles of family and friends, helps put my life back into perspective.
I love my kid, and that makes me great. Everything else is just icing on the cake